Self-Love vs Self-Destruction

Let’s talk about what self-love really is. It can be define as proper regard for and attention to one’s own happiness or well-being. For us, self-love as accepting yourself for what and who you are, but also trying to always be the best version of yourself. But what is the “best version” of yourself, well we will all quibble about what this is… so will our loved ones.

I have faced the fact that I will never smaller than a size 12, with my blessed genes it’s probably not physically possible… however in terms of clothes sizes it varies from one shop to the other. I’m more active now than i ever have been before and to be honest I’ve never been happier. I become an awfully sour person when I push too hard, whether it’s dieting, exercising, illness, but that doesn’t mean my body, my being, doesn’t deserve to live it’s best life.

Nurturing your body seems simple, but for me it feels like an extreme act of self-love. So self-love to me is doing what I can to feel my best.

Cutting things out isn’t for me, yes dieting is counting calories in a way, but I find striking a balance works better, and exercise have always helped me lose weight, so I walk, cycle, exercise. But, in all of this, I eat chocolate, pizza. bread, I don’t exercise every day, I do what I can when I can, I do what I love rather than enduring it, that’s my self-love.

I implore you, do NOT destroy yourself with fad diets, life draining amounts of exercise, or simply not appreciating yourself. Do what you can to feel your best. If you love hiking, way to go! If feeling your best is getting into the kitchen and cooking up something good, do it! Life is too short to constantly worry about how many carbs, how much fat, if you need too, count calories but don’t cut out any food, strike a balance with what you like to eat.

No one size fits all; not in clothing, and not in life, self-love is finding YOUR peace, finding what makes YOU feel best, makes you happy.

Please, find your balance. Trying to be something you’re not will always end negatively. It may not be today, or tomorrow, nor this year, but it will end badly if you’re not being true to yourself.

Self-love should NEVER be self-destruction. Believe in loving yourself, not changing yourself.

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  1. Fad diets can just get in the bin. I think it’s all about doing what feels right for you and honoring your body in a way that feels good. You don’t need to deprive yourself of everything under the sun to live a healthy lifestyle!

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